20 years in the past. When not even the phrase “harassment” was in our vocabulary as a result of that conduct, criminally typified on the time, was a social customized, accepted by all, circulated freely by the College, personal firms, teams of buddies, households and even … on the town halls.
20 years in the past. I bear in mind completely. I didn’t hear the voice of any girl, particularly those that crowded, virulent, on the door of the Ponferrada Metropolis Corridor, shouting and pointing an accusing finger at Nevenka Fernández, the good traitor, the consenting, the whore.
20 years in the past. On these steps of the City Corridor … a girl, microphone in her mouth, blurted out that “if I say no, it is no and that does not occur to me.” The girl was the voice of many generations, silent and accustomed to heroic acts, most likely educated (or impolite) in spiritual icons of the Santa Maria Goretti fashion. Die on your virginity and go down in historical past. For instance. That inherited contamination, that emotional corset of all of the Nevenkas on this planet.
20 years in the past. When it was realized that that 26-year-old girl, overwhelmed, heartbroken and emaciated, blurted out that “I’ve to say it, as a result of I’m 26 years previous and have dignity.” The dignity hitherto measured by the male measuring stick. A lot you do, a lot you might be value, otherwise you do it or you aren’t value it. And the scourge of insulting youth, the great thing about his innocence or the audacity of getting yielded to the pretensions of the mayor (or another person), which was patent of marque to not complain later. “He should have executed one thing.”
20 years in the past. When a womanizing man was nonetheless a person (of those that costume by the ft, one thing that I’ve by no means managed to grasp). When an unbiased, decided, decided girl places the brakes on and society burns her alive. This appeared just like the Inquisition. The lady who dared to present a press convention, trembling and seized with atrocious concern, realizing that the gesture would condemn her. The person. This man, all these males, satisfied that his conduct was virtually exemplary.
20 years in the past. Even now, many people don’t settle for that a few of us, a consequence of training, of submission, of misunderstood courtesy, have succumbed to inappropriate relationships, to the yoke in your will, to the crucial of the alpha male, fortunately transformed, right now, right into a low depth male however with many prejudices and lots of edges and lots of distances.
20 years in the past. Nevenka. He didn’t want English phrases. He had no references. He launched himself and stated it: if I communicate, I’ll proceed dwelling, I’ll get out of this hell. As the author Rosa Montero says, then, both you have been a nun, or a widow or a whore. Or married, which is to say, married as a result of I’ve no different.
20 years in the past. Looks like yesterday. That man was convicted. And she or he too: one thing may have executed, this one needs to get a slice. That is what we, the traitors within the Nevenka case, stated.
And that’s the reason it’s referred to as “the Nevenka case”, with a girl’s identify. Like Eva and the apple. Just like the lady from Sanfermines. Like within the White Home, the place oral intercourse has a girl’s identify. Like every thing. Or virtually every thing, even hurricanes or storms.
20 years in the past. At the moment, we are able to say “#Me Too”, “#me too”. Nevenka could not say “too.” She was alone and that can be our particular person and social debt, effectively deserved, resting there, in our burned and false conscience.
20 years in the past. It’s not a matter of no or sure, that too. It is one other factor that ought to by no means have a girl’s identify.
To all those that have been silent, died or received misplaced alongside the best way, those that spoke and people who ordered to be silent. To all of you, thanks.